A month ago, I became a mother! It has been the most exhilarating ride of my life. I’m happy, I’m tired, I’m busy, I’m learning, I’m… a lot of things these days, and it’s been such a fun adventure.
I didn’t know what my life would look like with a baby. Pre-baby, I was always out and about meeting with people, learning a new recipe, organizing or re-decorating something in our home, shooting an ad for my blog, or traveling. My days were very 8AM-8PM and I loved it! I love being on the go constantly and that’s just how Adam and I have framed our lives. We wanted to be able to slow down with our baby and take it all in, while also maintaining a sliver of our old, busy life together. Now that Holland is here, I can safely say we’re doing it! No day looks exactly the same, but that’s the beauty of it all.
Holland is such an EASY baby. I cannot believe my lucky stars. Basically, just give him food and his pacifier and he’s good to go! Our days usually start at 7AM, he’ll wake up for a feed at 12PM, 4AM, and 7AM. I quickly change his diaper, feed him, and down again he goes. He doesn’t always nap longer than an hour and a half during the day. He likes to be awake with his mama! I’d say I get one good 3 hour nap from him during the day (usually closer to the evening), but other than that it’s just a bunch of little cat naps. He likes to reserve all his sleep for the nighttime. God bless this child.
We like to be out and about for a few hours during the day. We’ll meet with a friend, run an errand for the home, or go have lunch with dad! We find something to do. He’s such a quiet and inquisitive baby. Constantly looking around as we’re out and about. He likes to squeal and semi-babble at me. I’m crazy about it! We’re so proud of the little person he is. I can’t wait to see what else he becomes.
As much as we’ve had a smooth ride as new parents, we’ve had our share of moments. I’ve learned here and there what is helping us carve out a good routine and some good family traditions. I’m learning a lot as a new mother every day so here’s 5 things I’ve learned so far:
- Whatever makes you happy…. do that. As much as I love being busy and out and about, I can put a lot of pressure on myself to always be doing or accomplishing something. I’m kind of a workaholic. If it makes me happy and it’s a GOOD kind of productive, I’m all about it and encourage myself to go after it. If it’s stressing me out and I’d just prefer a lazy, “no-good” day, then that’s what I do! Some of our days are filled with snuggles, cuddles, and Netflix! No house work allowed. Some of our days are filled with much more active things. But what does Holland seem to want that day, what do I want? We don’t fit our days into a box and I’m trying every day to not fill my motherhood into a box either. I go with my gut. I pull out my “happiness” compass and I follow that. If you’re a new mom like me, cut out whatever struggles you can. Do the happy thing, not the hard one (if you can), go find the happy thing to do if the day seems hard. Motherhood is whatever you make it! You have every power to make it whatever makes you and your baby happy.
- Find what’s easy. That’s why I love the Pampers Pure Collection. Disposable diapers are easier, that’s just a fact, but I do worry about the kind of chemicals we may put on Holland’s skin. As a mom, I never want to choose myself over my baby. Instead of feeling guilty about doing something EASY for me that may not be best for Holland, we did our research and went with Pampers Pure Protection diapers + wipes. They are the FIRST product that combines premium cotton and soft plant-based fibers. The diapers are made without chlorine bleaching, fragrance, parabens, latex or the 26 allergens identified by the European Union. Even though I am not cloth diapering, I know I’m not compromising with Pampers Pure. The wipes are made with 99% water and a touch of premium cotton. Full protection for Holland. We all win.
- Simplify grocery shopping. It’s safe to say that new moms are some of the BUSIEST people on the planet. From learning to care for a new human to keeping the household running smoothly, we do it all, all the time. Walmart is also helping every mom out. Now with Online Grocery Pickup, I can order diapers AND groceries from the comfort of my own home and pick them up without even leaving my car! If I can’t bear the thought of even having to leave the house, I can order online and have Pampers Pure delivered for free in two days (with a minimum of a $35 dollar purchase)! It’s perfect! Easy is what I need right now, and I found it!
- It takes time. Rome wasn’t built in a day. I’m learning that learning to be a mother takes time and building a bond with my baby takes time. I often ask myself, “Am I doing enough? Does he know HOW much I love him?” Instead of reading him 10 books a day because I think that’s what he needs, I remember that building his little mind up and social skills… they’re a day by day thing. It doesn’t take a lot every single day. It just takes a little once a day. Instead of worrying about us bonding like we’ve known each other for 20 years, I remember that he’s learning me and I’m learning him. Every day we fall more and more in love with each other. Motherhood just takes time. It takes time for you to learn what you need to know. It takes time for your baby to grow up and learn skills. It takes time for a family and those family traditions to form. So if you’re anything like me, don’t fret! We’re doing all the right things. If something doesn’t seem all the way there, know that it needs a little time. You’ll get there. (And YES – your baby absolutely knows you love him more than anything).
- You’re amazing. We’re moms! We’re doing the hard thing. We are raising little people to be the best they can be. We are loving them as hard as we can. We are running on very little sleep. We’re doing it. You’re amazing. In case no one told you today. Do the best you can and afterwards, remind yourself… that it’s enough and you’re amazing.
This post was sponsored by Pampers Pure Collection at Walmart. As always, all thoughts and opinions expressed are only ever my very own. 🙂